Dear Birth Mother,
We want you to know though this may be the most uncertain, challenging time of your life God is always with you. He is loving, sustaining, and strengthening you during your journey. We have been praying for you and your precious little one all along. We hope you understand no matter what path you choose, the Lord has purpose for you and your sweet baby. In the difficult choices you are making, we are incredibly grateful for your bravery in giving a hopeful family the greatest gift that could be given. We have tremendous respect for the bond you will always have with the child you have carried and a deep admiration for the courageous sacrifices you have made.
Our names are James and Emily and we have been happily married 10 years. We met in college when Emily was an athletic trainer and James a football player. We had immediate chemistry from the start of our friendship and it soon grew to more. The compatibility, attraction, and trust was unlike anything we had experienced. We both knew early on we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We dated for two years, had a short engagement, and were married in 2010. God knew we needed one another. James is an excellent leader, strong, patient, and caring and Emily is nurturing, compassionate, dedicated, and giving. We value strong work ethic and a positive attitude. We look forward to encouraging our children in any goals they have. We are always trying to grow our relationship in Christ and make our home warm, loving, and fun.
We have been on this journey to grow our family a long time. It has been filled with joy, challenges, and the Lord’s provision. We have known for a decade it is not possible for us to have children. This was a source of much heartache; however, the trials we went through side by side as newlyweds gave us a strength and dedication to one another that many people never experience in a lifetime. Now we know God has been preparing our hearts and home all along for a beautiful baby to come to us through the ultimate gift of adoption. Our friends, loved ones, and church community have been following along with our journey since 2015 and are thrilled and excited to meet this little one.
We have a life that we are truly thankful for. James has been a manager with the same oil and gas company for 10 years. Emily is a physical therapist in a large clinic. We enjoy common interests such as cooking, music, camping, hiking, hunting, fishing, reading, and traveling locally & across the world. You can often find us taking our Labs, Zoe and Lucy, for walks, hanging with our Calico cats, Cali and Thumby, or going to see family and friends on a fun getaway. We can’t wait to share our love of nature, travel, and adventure with our child!
For our family life, James is a short drive from work and has flexibility being able to work from home. Though Emily is working full time, she plans to stay home once the baby is born. With her profession, she is able to go back to work part time to fit the needs of our family. We both have an excellent vacation allowance. As our child grows older we would carefully consider finding a preschool program where he or she can learn, grow, make friends, and have an enriched experience. Our neighborhood is a safe, beautiful community in a suburb on the edge of a metropolitan area. We live on a cul-de-sac and see families and kiddos out and about all the time. There are playgrounds, parks, libraries, a pool & splash pad, and plenty of room to explore in a nature preserve behind our house. There will be an elementary school and junior high built in the neighborhood next year.
A favorite poem by E.E. Cummings says, ‘I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart.’ We hope you feel comfort and peace in your own heart as your child’s first mother. We will carry your heart for this child with us because we feel we will always be sharing a piece of our heart with each other. We will always tell our baby of this sacrificial, unconditional love that led to your search for a family for them and your desire to give them the best life you could. It is by the grace of God our paths have come together. Thank you for entrusting your child’s life to us. We hope and pray that the joy and love you’ve given us is something you find.
The happiness and fulfillment a child can bring to a family is a sacred thing and being chosen by a birth mother is the highest honor a parent can receive. We hope you feel God’s hand guiding you just as He has guided us on the path of adoption. We pray that just as the living God first adopted us into His family as His children, that we, by His ultimate example adopt your beautiful child as our own through His grace, mercy, and loving kindness living in us. You’ll always be included as a cherished part of our family and unconditionally loved. We will never stop praying for you. We will always hold your child’s spiritual growth as our highest priority: that they know and accept personally the deep and vast love that the Father has just for them, this special miracle. We will hold their hand, foster their dreams, and tell them about the love that made this beautiful story possible. We appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. We will continue to pray for you, your baby, and would love the opportunity to talk with you.
In His Love,
James and Emily