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The court decree has been signed…
Posted by Janet Mendenhall on April 27, 2010 at 7:09 pm
After the judge signs the final papers and the child is safely and legally in the forever parents’ arms, everyone returns to Christian Homes for a finalization party. The newest official member of the family, now usually 6 to 8 months old, is sometimes smiling and playful, but most often asleep and not even old enough to sample the celebratory pink or blue cookies. He doesn’t realize what has just transpired, even though the scene is full of hope and promise for that wee one.
Now young adults, their impressions of adoption indicate that though they may have slept through the party and missed the cookies, they certainly have not missed the significance of the whole event.
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Reflections on Adoption:
“Through the years I have grown to see the gift of adoption as I have seen how wonderful it really is. I know I have my gracious birthmother out there that gave me the gift of life, instead of taking my life, which was the most wonderful gift of all!” Anonymous
“Most people ask me now days, how does it feel to know you have a completely different set of parents and family? To tell you the truth, no different than anyone else. Yes you know in your head that they are out there, but your own loving family distracts you from it. When I was a child I was treated no different than my other biological family members, in fact I was loved greatly, my family spoiled and loved on me and adored me.” Anonymous
“I am so thankful for Christian Homes and adoption in general. My parents are awesome examples of Christ in my life. If you think about it, adoption is a very Christ-centered idea. He calls us to take care of the orphans and widows and that we are to love our Christian brothers and sisters like our own brothers and sisters. That is what adoption is — taking a child of God into your home to raise as your own. Children are blessings from the Lord and even if the child isn’t necessarily planned, they are still a blessing, whether it be to his or her biological parents, adoptive parents, or other family members.” Jennifer
“This process is a true representation of the axiom: “It takes a village to raise a child.” I’m so grateful for the successes of open adoptions, because the child has the opportunity and legal support of being influenced by a diverse, unique set of individuals and family structures. When adoptive families, birth families, and social systems collaborate in healthy communication, the adoptive child has a chance to grow in significant ways.” Jeremiah
A Word to Birthmothers:
“I think it is a great idea to do adoption. Even if you don’t want to give up your child, you can still do an open adoption, which is how my adoption is. It is wonderful having my birth mother in my life and I am so grateful for her selfless decision to put me up for adoption. I think it is a great way to give your child a normal life while you are still a part of it.” Jaci
“To any woman out there with an unplanned pregnancy considering her options — please choose life. Whether you choose to keep the child or choose to place the child for adoption — choose life. Just look through binder after binder of Christian Homes children and families and see what a difference your child can make in the lives of yourself, his or her potential adoptive parents, and the world. Then think of the thousands of other children adopted through agencies other than Christian Homes, and thousands more children that though they were unplanned, they were welcomed into their mother’s home. There are thousands of people around the world that have had full, wonderful lives because their biological mothers chose life. The baby you are carrying could be the person who cures cancer, a missionary that changes the lives of tens, hundreds, or thousands, or even a great mom or dad that is a wonderful example to all around. I am blessed that my biological mom chose life, and that my brother and sister’s biological mothers chose life. I can’t imagine what my life would be without my precious siblings.” Jennifer
To my birthmother:
“Thank you so much for your decision. I cannot thank you enough for thinking about me before yourself and what I needed. Having you in and your family in my life is such a blessing. It is amazing to be able to be a “big sister” to your kids. I am so grateful for everything you have and will do for me in the future. I love you!” Jaci
“I am forever thankful to my biological mom for wisdom beyond her age when she was pregnant with me. She knew that I needed a mommy and a daddy, and knew that my parents could potentially provide me a life that she probably wouldn’t have been able to provide.” Jennifer
“My birthmother is my hero. I can’t imagine what it’s like to make so many difficult decisions in a brief amount of time. She came to a realization that she could not keep her child, which must have taken an extreme amount of humility and submission. She could have aborted me, but she loved life and had an intense hope for her child. If I met my birthmother, I would thank her for her character and faith.” Jeremiah
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I am the grandmother of Jaci, and my daughter at a very early age made a wiser than her years decision to choose two wonderful christian parents to make Jaci their own. We are now part of a larger very “special forever family”! God is good. Judy
- Judy Peter
